BDSM and the DD/lg Lifestyle: “Fifty Shades” of Kink

DD/lg is an acronym for "Daddy" and "little"

DD/lg is an acronym for “Daddy” and “little”

With the success of the Fifty Shades of Grey book trilogy and the upcoming movie based on the books set to be released Valentine’s Day 2015, the mass fascination with anything BDSM related is strong. Although this is hardly the first erotic novel dealing with the topic (my favorite books are the Sleeping Beauty Trilogy), it is one of the first to put the BDSM lifestyle under a microscope. First of all, there is no one way to practice BDSM, in fact there are countless books that detail the many different ways that one can practice BDSM; however safety should always be a priority when delving into any one of the lifestyles under the BDSM umbrella. Today I want to specifically discuss the DD/lg lifestyle, which can be defined as a relationship between two consenting adults where one partner is the dominant “Daddy” while the other partner takes on the submissive role of the “little”:

Please note that the DD/lg dynamic has nothing to do with pedophilia. We do not condone the acts of pedophilia and the exploitation of children in any way. Just as adults like to take on other roles in the bedroom such as nurse, pet, porn star, etc. it is all roleplay; that is the same for ageplay. The DD/lg dynamic is like any other aspect of BDSM – it is safe, sane, and consensual. Those who participate in the dynamic should be not be shamed for doing so and should not be accused of having “daddy issues”.

What DD/lg is not…

  • Gender, age, or race specific.
  • just calling your boyfriend or husband “daddy” in bed.
  • the same as sugar daddies and sugar babies.
  • a reason for a submissive to act like a brat and manipulate their Dom.
  • a way to get spoiled and give nothing in return.

 

 

When I first started calling my husband “Daddy” and experimenting with age play,  we had only been dating for a couple of years and we were both in high school. At first he thought it strange, but it just seemed to work with the power dynamic of our relationship. Now as adults, we are no longer careful to hide my title for him, as it no longer embarrasses either of us. More people are being honest about having this relationship dynamic; there’s a willingness to discuss sexuality more than ever in the news as well as social media:

 

WARNING:-THE FOLLOWING VIDEO HAS REFERENCES TO CASUAL DRUG USE

With more curiosity comes more understanding and I think that it will become more common to hear a partner call his or her significant other “Daddy” in public without anyone batting an eyelash.

You can see a complete glossary of BDSM terms here.

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Facebook and Your “Relationship Status”

Hilarious Relationship Status

One of the plethora of possible Facebook relationship options

This blog is dedicated to chronicling the many ways the media portrays romantic relationships or the evolving “love story”. With the idea of love expanding past the traditional mold of one man and one woman, different definitions and labels of relationships have sprung up in popular culture. With the media acting as a lens, this blog will explore each label and definition that represents a minor, but growing perception that one relationship type does not fit all. I seek to shed light and awareness, and even understanding by illuminating love in all forms, while providing a glimpse of distinct relationships molds that to not conform to the norm. Recently, Facebook recognized a need to provide more than 50 options to each of its users to describe gender, and I believe that  in time, the relationship options will also expand to match users’ needs. The labels, “single”, “in a relationship”, “engaged”, “in a civil union”, “married”, and “it’s complicated” just don’t cut it anymore in the ever changing world of 21st century love.

 

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